I'm not a doctor, medical professional or trained therapist. I'm a researcher and pragmatic biohacking practitioner exercising free speech to share evidence as I find it. I make no claims. Please practice skepticism and rational critical thinking. You should consult a professional about any serious decisions that you might make about your health. I've done a pretty good job of beating the "smart people problems".
I can't swallow them dry. But that's just the ladies. The smart fellas must be picking up the slack somehow, right? Maybe by getting a little dumb-girl nookie on the side? Not so. Research shows that countries with high national IQs tend to have lower childbirth rates in general compared with countries that can't collectively tie their shoelaces together. That's right - entire nations are missing the evolutionary point of fucking as their IQs rise.
The problem with being the smartest guy in the room is that you usually know you're the smartest guy in the room. For some people, that's not a big deal. They can relate to others just fine and know how to navigate around everyone else's deficiencies without being complete pricks.
Others, however, know they have an intellectual edge and can't help but abuse it. In addition to giving you an advantage in brainpower, IQ apparently also bestows the gift of deception. Getty "Me? No, it was already like this when I got here. After all, in order to lie and get away with it, you also have to keep the truth in mind and manipulate it, and you might even have to cover up your lies upon further questioning.
All of this involves integrating several brain processes in much the same way that you would solve a complex calculus problem. This means that the age at which you start lying, and the effectiveness with which you do it throughout your life, are controlled by how smart you are. In one studyscientists put people in brain-imaging machines and found that the regions of the brain that light up when a person metaphorically sets his pants on fire are the same that control "executive functioning.
Getty Suuuuure, Mr. The universe is expanding and boundless. We're onto your game! Another study simply tracked the tendency of children to lie as they got older that is, as that aforementioned part of their brains developed. The researchers simply placed young kids in a room with a toy Barney under a cloth and told the kids not to peek at the toy when the researchers left the room.
Of course, 9 out of 10 kids totally peeked, but the percentage of kids who lied about whether they peeked grew as the kids got older. At age 2, 25 percent of the kids lied about peeking; at age 3, half lied; and by age 4, 90 percent of the kids who peeked at the purple dinosaur refused to admit their guilt. That would also seem to imply that the 25 percent of kids who fibbed at age 2 possessed higher cognitive abilities than their peers.
Leadership research also suggests that when it comes to leadership-and to some extent, all interpersonal relationships-forms of intelligence other than IQ are at least as important. Society puts smart people on quite a lofty pedestal but there are some real downsides to being highly intelligent. ate: I've spent the past 5 years doing lifestyle design experiments, trying to systematize and build habits to minimize the idiosyncrasies and insecurities that arise from my intellect.I've done a pretty good job of beating the "smart people problems". High IQ? Dating Problems? Why Dating Is So Hard If you have a high IQ, dating problems are more or less par for the course. While it's not the case that only unintelligent people find love, there is ample evidence that being of above average intelligence creates more problems than solutions. This is partly due to the way that smarter people.
In other words, if you want to know whether your kid is gifted, simply track the specific age at which he starts trying to bullshit you. Speaking of which We're sure that at some point, someone has told you that you can't get anywhere without an education, and for the most part, they're right. And you're much more likely to pursue that education if you're starting out with a high IQ.
According to renowned intelligenceologists who painstakingly measured every goddamn thing that you can associate with IQ, test scores were "the best single predictor of an individual's years of education. Well, their theory goes that smarter students do better in school Cracked breaks new ground yet again! It turns out that all this book learnin' is teaching you more than just the Pythagorean theorem - it's also making it easier for you to believe some laughably wrong and even seriously weird stuff.
Via Mastermarf. One problem is that education leads to one overall inaccurate belief: You think you're smarter than you are. Three studies have found that people who fall for investment scams are better-educated than the average person but don't seek advice because they think they're immune to making mistakes.
Feb 12, High IQ women or men are, by definition, rare and, therefore, hard to come by randomly, as only one in 20 or less can be considered "gifted" (IQ of +). Statistically, one finds more or them in higher education institutions, middle to upper clas.
In one study, researchers found that 94 percent of college professors think their work is superior to their peers'. These fellows fail to realize that intelligence doesn't always translate to real-world ability, and thus they tend to overestimate the quality of their work.
Sure is getting crowded at the smart end of the bell curve. Right, guys? It seems to go back to the old saying about how the wisest man is the one who realizes he knows nothing. Or, as Michael Shermerthe author of Why People Believe Weird Thingsputs it: "Smart people believe weird things because they are skilled at defending beliefs they arrived at for non-smart reasons. That's why the more education you get, the more likely you are to believe in, say, ghosts and the supernatural. One study found that 23 percent of college freshman believed in the paranormal, compared with 31 percent of seniors and 34 percent of graduate students.
Which leads us to wonder On one hand, it seems like the smarter you are, the greater your ability to know the dangers of, say, shooting heroin. So self-destructive habits are traits of the low-class and stupid, right? The Solution : "Book Smart" people have quite the advantage in the becoming "Street Smart" because of the discipline they have in their study habits, this discipline will serve them exceptionally well when applied towards studying social dynamics 'Street Smarts'.
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Indeed if you really want to acquire "Street Smarts" follow this simple, adventurous process:. Even for smart people with good emotional intelligence, it's very difficult to quantify an ROI from playtime. However, all work and no play makes for a dull, unfulfilling life.
Many smart people enjoy their work, which makes it even easier to work all the time since you can make the logical argument that your work is kind of like play to you.
This ties into that BS personal development platitude we all heard growing up: Figure out what you love to do, and then all you have to do is find someone to pay you to do that thing.
This is like telling a porn star they shouldn't have a dating life since their job is to have sex In case you don't have any friends who are porn stars, normalcy in dating is a major challenge for them. Don't ignore your basic human need to be playful because of this silly logical mechanism people use to justify their workaholic tendencies.
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5 Unexpected Downsides of High Intelligence
On a basic level society values smart people because we can solve problems, intelligence is a commodity in the business world that can be traded for money.
Unfortunately, smart people, often lacking in social savvy think that, like in the world of work, their intelligence can be traded for genuinely satisfying interpersonal relationships. It can't.
Feb 12, (Almost) all of the challenges we all tend to face are social. There's nothing in a high IQ that means we're weak in some other area, so if it's not relative, it's not broadly a problem. However, social interactions are of course relative. A give. The book makes the point that high IQ people have a harder time in the world since much of society is set up for the average. Those with a high IQ end up wasting a lot of time because the average. Nov 13, While high IQ people can have a myriad of hobbies and focus on their education, careers, dating, businesses, etc. - having a high IQ undermines the most fundamental and important thing in our lives - other people. High IQ or low IQ, we're all people, and we derive most of .
I'll repeat that because if you, as a smart person can truly understand this dynamic it will make a profound difference in the happiness your relationships bring you. It's not possible to convert your intelligence or trade solving a complex problem for genuine friendship or attraction. You're going to have to put in work the old fashioned way to make friends or attract people. Personal Example : Years ago someone I knew well was badly in need of a sharp website for their small business as a public speaker.
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This person had an active social life, at a time when my social life was going through a real dry spell due to a combination of factors. I did my friend a favor, built them a sharp website and maintained it for several months, free of charge.
This favor was never returned and it turned out they weren't so interested in me being part of their social circle. The few times I did invite myself to their social gatherings, I was an obvious outsider, the person who I had built the website for made little effort to introduce me to the group.
I don't really talk to him anymore. On the Surface : My 'friend' was a tremendous douche bag and used me for a website that they should have paid four figures for. However : I too was trying to use my friend, I was trying to 'trade' the 10 - 20 hours or so it would take to build the website for the same kind of social status that my friend had no doubt spent years building with his group of friends.
As mentioned in Aesop's Fables and Shakespeare's plays Analysis Paralysis has been a problem of smart people for a long time. Indeed, it is quite possibly the most insidious problem smart people have because it cloaks itself as the most essential processes employed in any successful endeavor; logic, cost-benefit decision making and planning.
The problem occurs when the opportunity cost of decision analysis becomes greater than the benefits which could be gained from a positive outcome of that decision. Analysis Paralysis comes from the ego, the part of your personality that wants to maintain comfort and status quo.
If you value adventure over comfort and are bored by the idea of status quo living, then your risk tolerance is high and you should err towards the opposite of Analysis Paralysis. Mindset Solution : Realize that the value and potential benefits of execution and decision making are exponentially greater than the benefits of analysis. If you want a philosophically trite example to motivate you to bust out of Analysis Paralysis mode just ask yourself this question: One day when you are on your deathbed again for the non-transhumanists out theredo you think you are more likely to regret that you didn't spend more time analyzing decisions?
Highly unlikely. In fact, the vast majority of people on their deathbeds regret not taking more unquantified risks.
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On the other hand, it makes total sense. For simple things, it takes someone smart to really screw it up. Smart people spent more time on achievements than on relationships when growing up. Smart kids usually come from smart families.
And smart families are usually achievement-oriented. Bring me home those straight As, son. Get into those top colleges, daughter. Take piano, violin, tennis, swimming and Tibetan throat-singing lessons. Win every award there is in the book. Be "well-rounded. Well, you're a talented little bugger. Of course you should develop those talents. At the same time, there's an opportunity cost associated with achievement.
Time spent studying, doing homework, and practicing the violin is time not spent doing other things - like chasing boys or girls, which turns out is fairly instrumental in making you a well-rounded human.
The upshot of all that achievement is that you get into a top college - congratulations! Dating is at best another extracurricular, number six or number seven down the list, somewhere between Model UN and intramural badminton. I've been co-hosting young alumni events for name-brand schools for long enough to know that these kids come out a little lopsided which sounds so much better than "socially awkward," don't you think?
All they need is a little tune up, or a little dating textbook like The Tao of Dating for Women or The Tao of Dating for Mento get them going - plus a little practice. Of course, as noted above, things only get worse once you graduate.
And if you're frustrated with your love life, you just might try to compensate by working harder and achieving even more to fill that void. Left untreated, this condition can go on for decades. I know people in their 40s, 50s, 60s and beyond who still haven't figured out how to create an intimate connection with another human being.
Smart people feel that they're entitled to love because of their achievements. For most of their lives, smart people inhabit a seemingly-meritocratic universe: If they work hard, they get good results or, in the case of really smart folks, even if they don't work hard, they still get good results. Good results mean kudos, strokes, positive reinforcement, respect from peers, love from parents. So it only makes sense that in the romantic arena, it should work the same way.
The more stuff I do, the more accomplishments and awards I have, the more girls or boys will like me. Please say I'm right, because I've spent a LOT of time and energy accumulating this mental jewelry, and I'm going to be really bummed if you tell me it's not going to get me laid.
Well, it's not going to get you laid, brother or sister. It may get you a first date, but it's probably not going to get you a second date. And it certainly won't bring you lasting love and fulfillment. Here's the thing: Your romantic success has nothing to do with your mental jewelry and everything to do with how you make the other person feel. And making someone feel a certain way is a somewhat nonlinear process that requires a different kind of mastery than that of calculus or Shakespeare. In other words, you need to earn love or at least lust.
Sadly, no mom, dad or professor teaches us about the power of the well-placed compliment or put-downgiving attention but not too much attention, being caring without being needy. I wrote a whole page book about that, so that's a story for a different day.