A female former gang member has exposed the growing levels of sexual violence against young women who join them, saying that many are willing to risk being raped in return for the status of membership. Isha Nembhard, who was part of an strong gang in Peckham, south London, said some girls readily accepted that they would be sexually abused when associating with male gangs. The year-old said that the problem had reached a point where being raped was becoming "normalised" among many young women. They sleep with a boy and the boy asks if she will sleep with all his friends. Even if they know it's wrong, they will do anything to get acceptance," she said. For example, she might know about what happens to girls in the gang but still sleeps with all of them just for the status.
Feb 18, Former girl gang members say that despite being aware of the risks many girls with low self-esteem are willing to risk being raped by entire gangs to increase their "status". Dec 24, Okay so at the moment i'm dating a latino guy in a gang he's 21, the rest of the gang don't know we are going thefoodlumscatering.com see 3 years ago, my family and i moved from Ireland to San Diego CA,USA.I'm 18 now.I'm Irish and i have a thick irish accent and i'm afraid this is the problem.I'm afraid that the rest of the gang will be angrey at the fact he is dating an irish . Nov 10, I have been dating a guy for over a year and recently found out I was pregnant with his child. He NEVER let on to me that he was in a gang (high ranking). I have never been in that type of lifestyle. He finally told me the other day about some of his "gang lifestyle". Now pregnant he insists that he is never leaving me or the baby. He has told me that everyone .
She added that cultural and social trends had exacerbated the problem since she left school. I used to be a tomboy, but nowadays a lot of girls who go to school are more girly-girly and make sure they put on their makeup and wear the right sort of skirts.
It's changed dramatically.
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Nembhard said that girls tended to be more sexually active before the age of 16 than before. Social networking sites like Facebook had, she added, helped to encourage promiscuity among young women.
Meanwhile, a senior Scotland Yard officer has voiced concern that the problem of young women being sexually abused by male gangs had grown sufficiently large to be classified as a "mainstream issue". The Metropolitan Police detective in charge of protecting vulnerable young women from falling into gang culture, Detective Chief Inspector Petrina Cribb, said that, although police were targeting girls as young as 12 to warn them of the risks associated with male gangs, she believed that educating youngsters of the dangers should begin even earlier, at primary school.
Cribb also admitted concern about the levels of ignorance among young women about sexual abuse, saying that many did not understand that being forced to give oral sex was rape. Cribb, who manages the Met's Heart programme, which educates young people about the risks associated with joining gangs, added: "A lot of young people do not know what is the law, particularly with regard to being coerced into oral sex, which is rape, but some think it is just playing around.
Former girl gang members say that despite being aware of the risks many girls with low self-esteem are willing to risk being raped by entire gangs to increase their "status". The Heart programme, which involves police, local authorities and charities, aims to teach women about relationship issues, rather than the traditional emphasis on sex education.
I kinda enjoy it, I went to the supermarket the other day and when I got back two guys come and unpacked my car. I don't even have to lock my stuff up cause nobody would even try steal anything. I just started dating a VP of a gang and I know thei. Feb 19, Next you're cutting crack This article is more than 8 years old One ex-gang member describes how her life was taken over by a boyfriend, and how the cycle begins at school. Teen Girls Dating Gang Members More Likely to Become Pregnant. by VR Sreeraman on May 25, at AM Lifestyle News. Girls who date gang members are .
I'd go and see him but nothing major [happened]. Boys are paranoid, they think their girlfriends will set them up. But he began asking her to "help out". At first it involved taking messages, then she was asked to help cut up the drugs.
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She knew things had changed. Soon Lisa was carrying drugs and weapons. If I got caught [with the gun] I would have said no comment and took the bird with me. The relationship with Jerome continued as she was drawn deeper into gang life. You don't love him but you're made to believe you do.
It's all very fiction, but it's not real love you don't realise how deep you're in until it's too late. As she got to know more people in the gang she realised everyone - boys and girls - had a different role.
As Lisa became more embroiled with the gang her life became more dangerous.
I couldn't go to my mum's house and when I did see her she had to meet me somewhere. If I was seen by myself something would have happened to me. When Lisa turned 17 her endless nights spent in the "traphouse" began to take their toll. I didn't want to do it towards the end. But I was more scared because that's when people turn against you.
You know everything in the area. Who's selling drugs, who's got firearms. Lisa began to realise the extent of the violence and criminality she had witnessed over two years.
Boys would get a pitbull and train it to bite, they'd batter people, rob them for their watches. Instead she tried to slowly extricate herself from the gang.
He'd tell me I wasn't being a good girlfriend. Sean O'Grady.
Jul 19, Often times dating a gang member can lead to gang membership, gang involvement, and abuse. According to a recent study by researchers at RTI International, teenage girls whose boyfriends are gang members are nearly twice as likely to have unwanted pregnancies as those not dating boys involved with gangs.
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Middle-class girlfriends are highly prized by violent gang members because they can stash weapons, drugs and cash under the police radar, a study warned thefoodlumscatering.com: Chris Greenwood. Among the differences between a family and gang, however, are the gang's possible initiation requirements, the expectation that its members will violate the law and conceal the criminality of fellow members, conditional love/caring, and the need to present a certain bravado which precludes being vulnerable and opening one self up for. However, most of the girls who date gang members do not use contraceptives and have no idea what safe sex is about, says Estela Martinez, director of .
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